I won’t go. Period.
I’ve had it with people and their weddings in destinations that require guests to fly, book a hotel room and, in many cases, also splurge on various other events associated with the celebration — rehearsal dinners, bachelor and bachelorette parties, and showers.
Just stop the madness. You’re getting married. It’s not the coronation of a monarch.
If I may, I’d like to speak for your friends and family members who don’t dare protest.
They dislike destination weddings, too, but don’t want to hurt your feelings. They would rather go into debt or tap their meager savings meant for other financial priorities to make you happy. They don’t want to be responsible for a Bridezilla breakdown.
Many wedding celebrations have become about how far away you can drag your poor relatives and friends to watch your nuptials. It’s all about the scenery and pageantry — the more viral-worthy the better.
We want to come and celebrate your union, but must we raid our savings and use up our own precious vacation days to party with you? Frankly, your “big” day is costing us too much money and time.
A study by Bankrate.com found 19 percent of respondents said they had declined a wedding invitation because they felt they couldn’t afford to go.
Bankrate also asked: “Do you think it’s in poor taste for a couple to plan a destination wedding where all guests will incur travel expenses to attend?”
Fifty-six percent said yes.
I would not have framed the question as being in “poor taste.” But it certainly may be inconsiderate.
Without knowing the intimate details of other people’s finances, you can still guess that many of the folks you invite will have to stretch themselves financially to attend the wedding. If you know this, why then would you put them in the position of missing out on your big day? Or worse, you know they will come anyway, even if they can’t afford to attend.